Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Grandmothers Before Their Brain is Fully Developed?

I'm going there....please be respectful. :)

As a teacher, I see a lot of kids who have kids young.  Last year, the majority of my 7th and 8th graders' parents were under or just at the age of 30.  Like, I could feasibly be a step-parent to a TEENAGER! Trippy.  Gross when the parents asked me out.  So, there's this concept of grandparents becoming parents because parents are "irresponsible, financially incapable, too young," whatever......  or grandparents raising grandchildren the right way because their teen pregnancy may not have resulted in the best upbringing of their child.

The article I'm listing below at least approaches this from other countries, where marriage can happen young, and in Britain (yes another country, but also first-world).  This was probably a sound decision on the writer's part, because who really wants to read about an epidemic of teen pregnancy?  But I think that's what it is.  Kids are not taught growing up what the consequences of having a child are.  By the time they get pregnant and a baby pops out, they are starting to realize that babies are going to drastically change a girl's body, take a lot of time, and so forth.  For some of these kids (I'm thinking of one that I know right now), their parents, aka grandma and grandpa, take sick days when the baby is sick.  They will keep the baby for an entire week so mama or daddy can go frolic in the true high school fashion of underage drinking, drugs, and partying.  People my age in the US and elsewhere are GRANDPARENTS!!!!

So, how can we help these girls (and boys) whose bodies are not fully developed, who cannot financially or educationally support their children (sometimes emotionally as well).

Point being, adolescence is a time of massive, massive change.  Throwing a baby into the mix must only complicate things.  Do people think that this is okay, and that is why teen mothers have children who become teen parents?  Are we just not getting the message across?  What's the problem?

World’s youngest grandmother is just 23-years-old

A 23-year-old woman is claiming that she is the world’s youngest grandmother.
Isaiah ChoiceCindy Lookabill-Hall
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Rifca Stanescu gave birth when she was just 12 years old and two years ago her daughter Maria had a baby at the age of 11.
Despite urging her daughter not to follow in her footsteps and stay in school, Stanescu told The Sun that Maria left to get married when she was just 10 and gave birth to her first child the following year.
"I am happy to be a grandmother but wished more for Maria," Stanescu told the paper. 
Stanescu also revealed that she eloped with jewellery salesman Ionel Stanescu when she was 11 and he was 13.
She fled with her boyfriend because she was worried her father would force her to marry someone else in the village of Investi in Romania.
Her mother, also named Maria, became a great grandmother at just 40 years old.
Last month, the woman who is set to become Britain’s youngest grandmother at age 29, said that her daughter becoming a teen mum was ‘her worst nightmare’.
Kelly John gave birth to her daughter, Tia, at age 14. Tia is now expecting her own child at the same age.
'My worst nightmare has always been that Tia would repeat my mistake and get pregnant young. [When I found out] I felt the colour drain from my face and all I could do was cry.' John told the News of the World.

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